Feb 28 2009
My Love Dare Journey Has Begun
I recently wrote about how I love to read and had finished the book FIREPROOF. I honestly can’t say it enought that if you haven’t read it you need to get it. After reading finishing FIREPROOF I felt as if I wasn’t complete in my journey to help myself and my relationship. I decided to take it a step further and get the next step up which is THE LOVE DARE book.
If you haven’t read FIREPROOF or seen the movie then you don’t really know what I’m talking about so let me explain the best I can without giving away everything in the book.
FIREPROOF is basically about a couple that are facing divorce and the husband is talking to his father about the troubles they are having and his father basically gets him to give his relationship forty days to go through somewhat of a challenge, this challenge is a book called THE LOVE DARE. In this book there are forty days of love dares in which you have to complete fully in order to get the full meaning of the book. The books purpose is to all yourself to lead your heart instead of following your heart because sometimes the heart will lie or get confused and also to show us that love is more a decision then anything else, meaning when your spouse isn’t doing or saying the right things you choose to love them anyway because it’s more important to have that person in your life them to argue over the little things. Basically it’s learning how to truely love unconditionally and freely. Not only do you learn about your spouse but you learn a lot about yourself and that’s what I’m looking forward to the most.
I will not write about my daily dares on a daily basis because I feel that each person needs to read the book rather than just guess the dares from what I’m going through but I may from time to time write about something that is important to me that I want to remember and to share. I started this book to make myself and my relationship better and even though it is meant for people who are married I have been with my fiance for almost 15 years and I believe we have been through enough together to walk the walk of the married and we have enough sense to know that before marriage comes we both have to be complete in ourselves and in our relationship because once vows are said before God for me I refuse to allow them to not mean anything six weeks later… so I’m starting now 
To give you a little look into what I’ve been doing, my first dare was to go the whole day and not say anything negative to my fiance and if I felt that I was going to say something negative then I had to just not say anything at all. (Also he knows I’m reading the book but has no idea as to what is in it so that’s pretty exciting).
This was actually tougher then I thought! On the day of this dare I didn’t sleep very well and it took me thirty minutes to wake him up to go to work. I was so ready to fuss at him and to say things to make him mad enough to wake up and get out the door but I bit my tongue… BOY DID I BITE IT! Later in the day he called me an hour later then he normally does and tells me that the jeep was hit by the man picking up carts in Walmart’s parking lot and that it was the mans fault because my fiance even blew the horn to stop him. I’m glad it wasn’t his fault but there were so many other things that I was thinking and realized later after biting my tongue that he tried his best to move so the guy wouldn’t hit him, he beeped the horn, he did everything possible to make sure he didn’t get hit so I learned that I would have been fussing for no reason at all when he really tried his best to stop the situation from happening. I began to wonder how many times I jump on his case without hearing the whole story and never hearing it because he’s too upset with me for jumping down his throat about it. Yeah I’m learning some things and I’m not even close to being done with the book!
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